thatoverenthusiasticqueerfanboy:

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That’s Adrian on the left and me (Ed) on the right. We’ve been together for NINE, MONOGAMOUS years. Yes, we do exist. We met online, and I fell in love with him the first time I saw him in person. Some gay men think they’ll get bored being with the same guy, but I am constantly falling in love with Adrian over and over again. Most recently, I watched him playing with our two youngest nephews (2 & 3), and all I could think was, “I cannot wait to be married to this man and raise kids with him.” He’s not my boyfriend,  my partner, my lover, or my significant other. Adrian is my family. 

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Jesus Christ - this kind of shit makes me angry. Look, you partnered up with someone and kept it in your fucking pants. Do you want a fucking cookie? Just because you ascribed to some heteronormative, Christian ideology doesn’t make you better than people who don’t ascribe to those roles. You want to know who else exists? People who don’t elevate themselves by slut-shaming and monopolizing the definition of a relationship. 

I’m happy that you’re happy - but fuck off if you’re going to patronize those who don’t fit those roles. You know who else exists? People who don’t need to define their relationship by those you sleep with.

Wait wait, so gay people who decide to be monogamous are living a ” heteronormative, Christian ideology” life? That’s the most amusing thing I have ever read. I don’t care if people want to be monogamous or have an open relationship, but it seriously cracks my shit up when people decide to NOT have an open relationship or sleep with other people they are accused of living a “hetero” life. Why is that? Who the fuck cares. I’m with you on the whole “don’t force your shit on someone else”, but really? Calling it a heteroish life just comes off as sour.

In the end if someone wants to live and love and fuck only ONE person while dating, who cares? It doesn’t make them want to conform to society or hetero life, it’s what they want. Just like if someone wants to fuck around on their partner, or have an open relationship. It’s what they decide. Because if we’re going to call people living that life a “hetero wannabe life” I can think of a few terms for those who choose to live an open relationship lifestyle.

At the end of the day, who cares. People are happy, leave it at that.

It’s heteronormative to think that marriage somehow legitimizes a relationship. Christian ideology drives the force behind this thinking. I’m not saying that they can’t be monogamous nor am I saying I don’t condone it - For all I care, they could be whatever they want to be 

But to imply, that because they are monogamous that they are, at its core, better than those who aren’t is what pisses me off. Snarky lines like “We’ve been together for NINE, MONOGAMOUS years. Yes, we do exist,” only emphasizes the fact that if you’re not monogamously partnered then it is something to be ashamed of. Which it isn’t.

At the end of the day, monogamy trumps all other forms of relationship and sexual expression and that is fucked up. Because it sets up horrible, rigid relationship archetypes that say, “If you don’t find a relationship, marry and have kids - then you are perceived to be a failure.” 

Perpetuation of an ideal that is in a position of privilege is nothing to be lauded about. Those who are single, multiple-coupled, polyamourous, what have you, are inherently shunned and disadvantaged by society at large.

I’m happy for the guys, really - but the description was unnecessary, rude and alienating.

… marriage wasn’t even invented by Christians. I get your point (in fact, I reblogged this stating my discontent with the description a couple of seconds ago), but how is monogamy inherently Christian and heteronormative? I know people use “queer” and “heteronormative” as antonyms with the former encompassing everything that’s “out of the norm,” but I’m quite uncomfortable with a slur used against non-straight and/or non-cis people being reclaimed by, say, a cis straight person who just happens to be in an open relationship.

Also, the guy was condescending about his monogamous relationship, but it didn’t sound as though he thought marriage legitimized a couple.

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